Join the Conversation


  1. aw, sweetie. i’m sorry! 🙁
    i was going to email you today and see about visiting this weekend…but i’m thinking lets wait and see how next week goes. i REALLY want to come visit you and meet tuesday, but lets wait until you’re both a little more rested. deal?
    p.s. is she screaming in that picture? b/c even screaming she looks like one cute little girl! 🙂

  2. Hey Amber,
    I don’t know if someone has suggested it or if you have read it, but there is a book, Happiest baby on the block.
    my son had heart surgery at 4 weeks and the nurse in the PICU SWORE by it. I ended up checking it out from the library and skimmed through it, they give lots of ideas about how to soothe an upset baby. I think you are doing most of them, but it was an interesting read. It might give you some new ideas.
    I wish I knew a sleep dance to do for you both!
    hang in there

  3. Have you read the Baby Whisperer…I love this method. It is about finding out the kind of baby you have and no cry it out…well not really. It worked for me (but I still had to have my kids rocked to sleep every night. They are 7 and 4 and still NEED me to go to bed at night (but secretly I don’t really care, I just pretend I do sometimes…haha)
    Good luck.

  4. Aw Amber, I’m so sorry. Just think, she won’t always be this fussy…I’m just not sure at what age that comes about…

  5. I know how hard it is, but thankfully it will not last forever. Just make sure to ask for help when needed, you have to take care of yourself just as much as you are taking care of Tuesday.

  6. Amber, I had the same problem with my daughter. We finally discovered that she wasn’t getting “enough” from my breast milk. We supplemented her feedings with an organic formula. Almost from the beginning she started sleeping better.

  7. Hmmmm….brings back memories! Those first few weeks are so hard. You wait and wait and wait for this little baby to be born to hug and snuggle and stare at awestruck. Then when you have a non-sleeper (as I can relate to really well) it’s so hard to really enjoy those moments when you’re beyond sleep deprived. Hang in there…it will get better. There is a brand of colic medicine our pharmacist recommended. It is all natural by a company called Boiron and it really worked for us. Maybe give it a try…perhaps some painful trapped gas is what’s keeping her up.

  8. Hi –
    It seems like you have a lot of good friends who really care about you and give you lots of advice. Take the bits and pieces that work for you and Tuesday and make them work.
    My only advice would be to have her try sleeping on her belly. I know that is not what is suggested now, but didn’t all of us who grew up in the 70’s and 80’s make it? With my first baby, I had countless sleepless/crying nights until my mom came to stay with my husband and me. My mom convinced me into letting Jeff sleep on his belly for a nap while on a blanket in the living room so that we could keep an eye on him. Low and behold, he slept for the first time in two weeks without being held. He is now 3 1/2 and still sleeps on his belly. The doctor continuously gave us a hard time about it, but I decided that it was best for our family to have Jeff sleep on his belly.
    You’re doing a great job…remember that before you know it, Tuesday will be looking like a little girl rather than a baby girl and you’ll look back on these days fondly.

  9. I feel your pain. Cooper was the same way. Do you have a swing? If so, bundle her up so she won’t slide around and let her swing for awhile while you nap. It’s been said that if a baby sleeps 5 hrs straight, that’s “sleeping through the night” (which sounded CRAZY to me, since I wasn’t getting 5 hrs straight in a night…). Hang in there. You might want to check your diet too, just in case you are eating or drinking something that goes into the breastmilk and keeps her up. I had to go off caffeine for awhile because it affected Cooper and kept him up. All of that is up to you (meaning just take what makes sense to you and go with it). Either she’ll get better at sleeping or your ability to cope will increase.
    We are here for you!

  10. Just remembered something else with Cooper—he had a little reflux that kept him up. I had great success with getting him adjusted by a chiropractor. It was like flipping a switch! That might help as well…just a thought…

  11. Having been there – I am thinking after tired comes CRAZY – but you may want to check the map. Good luck hon, this is trying times. My youngest was colicky and we were attached 24-7 – or so It seemed – we have such an incredible bond now though – so it turned out. Want me to look up that vaccuum/ white noise CD? I think I can find it…

  12. Oh my, I just remembered how we would play a lullaby cd all night long… how I came to hate those songs!
    In regards to Brandy’s comment; I hate to say it, but all 3 of mine have been belly sleepers. I tried so hard to not with my first… anyway, here we are.

  13. I’m just winging by.. I don’t know if you have a pump, but I give my 2 month old a bath every night and then feed him what I’ve pumped for the day- he usually will eat 4-5 Oz and that boy is OUT. The extra milk helps put him to sleep and help him stay there. Good luck getting sleep when you can!

  14. i’m so glad that Brandy and Nikki both gave the “sleep on the tummy” advice! When my oldest was 6 weeks old, my parents came to visit from San Diego and I told my mom how tired i was–she about had a cow when she saw all the contraptions in the crib designed to keep Jake on his side etc. she said “gimme that baby! you put him on his tummy and he’ll finally get some much needed rest!”
    after i recovered from the worry of “SIDS” i finally got to sleep and loved every hour of it!!
    i second the belly sleeping–if it worries you too much, try laying her on your tummy for the first time or so.

Leave a comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *