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For Better…

Or worse.

Yesterday Bj and I got the biggest shock of our lives. His mom called me looking for him to tell him that his father passed away. He was only 55 years old. He lived in California and took care of Bj’s grandfather, who found him yesterday. We’re not sure exactly what happened, we just keep saying, "it’s so weird." And then we start crying again. And I’ve only seen Bj cry twice before so it’s just so sad. Yesterday I was in the middle of painting the stairwell and I was going to do this whole, "blah blah blah high places suck to paint, blah, blah, blah" post, and Bj was eating a BLT. Yesterday he kept saying, "I was just out to lunch, I just had a BLT, and now everything is different." We’re going to head down there right away, Bj’s mom and step dad will accompany us. Talk to his grandpa, and get him to move up here so we can take care of him. There is no one else, no brothers, no sisters, no anyone, it’s us. We have to grow up right now. We have to scatter the ashes, and sell the house, and all the stuff, and close accounts, and care for the grandpa. I’m in shock, I’m scared, and I kinda wish I wasn’t old enough to be the one in charge.

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19 responses to “For Better…”

  1. Angela C-M Avatar

    I am so so sorry. Please pass on our condolences to BJ as well.
    Hugs,
    Angela

  2. Julie Avatar
    Julie

    We love you both and are sorry you are having to deal with all these things when you should just be enjoying each other. Hugs, Mom & Bill

  3. iman Avatar

    Just wanted to let you know that you and BJ are in my thoughts.
    Take care.

  4. Briana Avatar

    I’m so sorry for your loss! And I know EXACTLY how you feel. We got this same news on January 29th with a knock at the door at midnight by police. It’s aweful, not fun at all and just so very sad. My condolences to both of you.

  5. heidi Avatar

    Amber & BJ — I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your families in my prayers.

  6. suzanne Avatar
    suzanne

    You’re in my prayers.

  7. Tracey Avatar
    Tracey

    Amber & BJ, I’m so very sorry for your loss. Hugs and prayers.
    It is always scary to face the unknown, but knowing the people you and BJ are, everything will be fine. Rely on each other for strength, cry with each other for release, and sigh with each other when you discover years from now that the very events that make you afraid today, are the very things that have drawn you closer together tomorrow.

  8. Lesli Avatar

    I’m so sorry for your loss – your family is in my prayers.

  9. CEARA Avatar
    CEARA

    Amber and BJ–I am so sorry for your loss. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you. You both are in my prayers.

  10. Kristin Avatar
    Kristin

    I’m so sorry to hear about your loss, I send my condolences.

  11. Jamie Avatar

    OH honey.
    I’m so so so sorry to hear this.
    I’m thinking about you. 🙁

  12. sciarrino Avatar
    sciarrino

    I love you both! Don’t underestimate the power of your love for each other, it more than anything will carry you through the “grown-up” times. You both are in very good hands… each others.

  13. elizabeth Avatar

    amber, i am *so* sorry for yours and bj’s loss. i know exactly what you are going through. my mother in law passed away on thanksgiving almost four years ago from a massive heart attack. i too thought that i was too young to deal with something like that.
    i do hope you two have a safe trip to where you’re going and again, i am soooo sorry to you both. big hugs!

  14. Vee Avatar

    so sorry to hear of this!!
    please accept my condolences to you and BJ
    you will each other to lean on these hard times
    hugs…

  15. lekkerkerker Avatar
    lekkerkerker

    amber & bj, i’m so sorry for your loss. i can’t imagine what you must be going through- you’ll be in my prayers. give each other hugs, and know that you both are so strong, and even stronger together.

  16. sarah Avatar

    oh amber, I’m so sorry to hear about your loss!
    you and bj are in my prayers.

  17. Jessica K. Avatar

    Amber, I have so enjoyed reading your beautiful wedding details over the last few months and to have this happen is a life altering shock of cold water in your face. I am so sorry for BJ and you but I know that together you are stronger now and his grandpa couldn’t have a better couple to care for him.

  18. deb Avatar

    Please know you’re all in so many people’s thoughts and prayers.

  19. Dianne K. Nelson Avatar

    Sorry for your loss. It will be okay. It may not seem so right now, but keep telling yourself that. I just went through this with my Grandma. It will be okay.
    Dianne

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